Updates for the gravity form intergration

Updates for the gravity form intergration

Worked out some issues with the Leads and how to manage some interests
groups that aren't the same on some forms.  adding new records when the
get submitted to the gravity form and our leads tables.  Testing out
the leads entries with other forms and found issue with forms that
don't have a member_ok field set it updates that field.
Updated the code to fix that.